BIG Update - Part "Mom"

So after all the drama a few months ago with mom, the ordeal is finally over (for the most part).  On Friday morning she went in to surgery and we were all very happy to find out that the cyst was NOT attached to anything (they thought they would have to remove part of her bowel and resection it as they thought the cyst was attached to it) and they were able to do the hysterectomy at the same time which means no more surgery :) (Which I doubt mom would have gone through having a separate hysterectomy after the last two surgeries).  She is in a semi-private room right now in Big City and is pretty comfortable.  They took out the pain pump and she is just using T3's at this point which is good.  The back pain she had been getting is already different, still pain but not the same feeling as before. They have even got her up and walking a little (from the bed to the bathroom to the door and back). The doctor said it was pressing up against her central nervous system so having it removed should fix a lot of problems.  The doctor who did the hysterectomy said the cyst was the size and shape of a decent sized turkey!  They guess between 8 and 10 lbs!  Dad is still down there with her and will stay there until at least after talking to the doctor on rounds on Monday.  He will decide then, and talk to me and see how I'm doing here alone with K, about if he will come home or stay up there longer. 

Unexpected Surprise and a Little Upset

Well I know this should have been about my mom and what is going on (and has gone on) but something else has come up that I wanted to blog about.  Because of all the moving I did with university and moving back home and honestly a lot because of EDS and the accompanying issues, I am down to one good friend in my hometown.  This friend "S" has been around a long time in my life.  Ironically our parents were acquaintances before we were even born!  They used to bowl on a league together but then lost touch with each other when my parents stopped bowling.  S and I became friends in grade 3 when I changed schools and we quickly learned our past history through out parents.  We were really close until about grade 8 and we grew apart.  We were in different levels at high school and in different circles of friends but were always friendly with each other, just didn't get together as often.  When I left to go to University we lost touch but when my nephew was born we got back in contact and kept in contact.  She was the only person I knew in my home town friend wise when I had to leave university part way through my second degree.  She had been there when I had some of my knee surgeries and always stopped by with Slushies and a movie. We grew apart a few years ago again mainly (knowing this now) as I fell into a deep depression and severed most ties with friends.  Anyways obviously we got back in contact, and she was married one year ago yesterday.  I was not in the wedding mainly because she knew I did not have the money to do it, didn't want to put a strain on our friendship (as we had both had friends that we stood up in for their weddings then the friendship would end) and honestly because my health couldn't take it.  We talked frequently on facebook and started spending more and more time together again as she had more problems with other friends.

Anyways, last year around the beginning of April she stopped by the house for a quick visit and we were talking about how my neighbours were pregnant (the girl who lives next door is one of S's good friends sister) and S gave a small smile and said "I'm about a month now" and rubbed her stomach.  Mom and I were so happy for her and then she said her mom would kill her because she wasn't supposed to be telling anyone about it as it was so early stages but that she knew I could keep the secret.  Since then she ended up losing her job and we fell into similar circumstances again.  Not having money to go out shopping all the time or movies every week so since this summer we have basically been getting together weekly and scrap booking or doing some occasional trip across the border for shopping.  She confined in me all her fears and worry's about being pregnant and not knowing what to do with a baby (she is pretty much the youngest in her entire family).  She was due to have her baby boy on Halloween.  She even talked to me about the name of the baby and told me that only family knew and they didn't want anyone else to know as they didn't want to 'jinx' it.

Last night I went facebook and was very surprised to see her brother post a picture of a gorgeous little baby and then confirmed that yes, S had her baby.  I went up to the hospital today around 2 and stayed there while they took him to get circumcised and tried feeding him (behind a curtain) and just be there.  I found out that her husband had dinner plans with his family and S's mom had plans to go on a day trip with family (remember she gave birth 3 weeks premature so plans had already been made) and that S would be alone from about 5:30 until the next morning!  I quickly offered to stay in with her and she looked relieved to have someone there with her.  I ran a few errands and got back to the hospital around 5:30 until 9ish when she was going to attempt another feed than get settled down for the night.  I found out that I was the only friend that had come up to the hospital to see her so I was the first non-family member (technically) to hold the little man.

I held her little boy most of the evening and even admitted to her that I had regrets.  If I had of known that I would end up disabled and my parents having custody of K, I would have stopped school when he was born so that I could be there to watch him grown up more.  Then I told her how I wasn't going to have kids and even said that I would love to be able to watch a little baby grow up as this would be my only chance.  I told her that if she needed absolutely anything to just call me and that this weekend when her husband has to work, I have no qualms about packing up an overnight bag to go in and stay with her.  Both her and her mom looked a little more relaxed when I said that.  I helped change a diaper, helped with the creams and gauze from the circumcising and just held and rocked him and she remarked that I knew what I was doing and she was going to need help and was glad that I knew what I was doing lol.

So all of that was really good news... the bad news?  I am in pure agony right now.  My entire right leg is in spasms and painful (even a pain killer isn't dulling it) and my right arm right from neck down to fingers is burning.  It really makes me mad that just going in and getting to know my best friends new little baby and holding him for a few hours has caused so much pain.  It is just so frustrating :(  Going to have to double up on the pain meds if I want any chance to sleep tonight :S

Worst Day Of My Life...

... and I am not being overly dramatic here!  I haven't posted yet about this as it was quite a few rough weeks around here medical wise - and it wasn't me!  I will start from the beginning and apologize in advance as this will most likely be long as it was a very very long day.

My mom has been having 'female problems' for quite a while now and after two D&C's within the last few years she wanted to finally get it all over with, by the way she does not have EDS. The doctor she usually saw classified her as a new patient so she was facing a six month wait before she could get in to see him again.  So the receptionist at our GP's office asked if she wanted her to try a different doctor and actually referred mom to her personal ob/gyn and mom was able to go in and see him mid-September.  Mom went to the appointment and Dr. P suggested a more 'sophisticated' D&C done in 'big-town' an hour away but mom instead asked if she couldn't just 'get it over with' and have a full hysterectomy.  Dr. P smiled and said that he hoped mom would ask for one.  Then he asked how soon mom wanted to get it done and she said any time so he went to check his calendar and had a date for her... October 1st - only two weeks away which she took and was glad to be getting it over with well before Christmas.  She was told that she would be in the hospital for 3 nights before being allowed to go home and would be on 'lifting restrictions' for 6 - 8 weeks.

So on September 30th, mom packed her bag for the week and I packed up all I needed for a day at the hospital.  When I have surgery it is generally mom that comes with me and when mom has surgery it's generally me going, dad hates the hospital so tries to avoid it at all costs and is really not good with sitting around and waiting.  October 1st we woke up really early and headed to the hospital.  We do the normal stuff and are taken to the same area I went when I had my scope (that bad horrible scope!!! uh-oh bad feeling #1) before she is taken up to the pre-op area and they let me go up with her.  I meet Dr. P at that time and was glad to see that her anesthesiologist was actually the one that I had a consult with before my last surgery who was really really nice!  I have no clue about any times for this day.  I know her surgery was supposed to be around 9:30ish and that she got to go back slightly early.  So I grabbed her stuff and my stuff and headed down to Tim Hortons to get a bagel and an iced cap as I hadn't eaten anything yet.  I then headed up to the waiting area for the in-patient surgery ward.  I had my breakfast and took out my book to read, knowing that I would be there for awhile before hearing anything.

I honestly don't remember what time it was but Dr. P entered the room and told me to sit down because we had to talk (uh-oh bad feeling #2).  He was very calm and collected and even though I knew it was serious, he put me instantly at ease just with his presence.  He told me that they did not do the surgery.  He said that he was glad that he was the one to do the surgery because when he does a hysterectomy he likes to look around the entire abdominal cavity whereas most ob/gyn's don't do this.  He tells me that they found what is called an abdominal aortic aneurysm and once he saw that he didn't want to proceed.  He told me that generally if an aneurysm is less than 5cm they aren't too concerned about it.  Then he tells me that my mom's is 12cm in size.  I went kind of numb at that point but he kept on saying that they were waiting for transport as they needed to take her to 'big city' urgently.  Dr. P says they are having slight difficulties with the paperwork as they have never had to send a patient from post-op straight to 'big city' by ambulance before (it is usually done out of ICU).  He also said something along the lines that there were no decisions that I had to make (thankfully!!  I was her emergency contact for the day because I was with her) and he was calling the shots.  He asked if I had any questions and all I said was I wanted to go and see her.  He told me that this was generally not allowed but he would talk to the nurse about it.  I quickly went on the Internet there to look up symptoms to see if there was anything that might be able to help.  I called my dad and told him what was going on and said that I would leave keep him up to date.  He told me that we would change places once she was off so I would be home with K and he would head to 'big city' with mom.

A nurse came to get me and told me that technically I was not allowed in the post-op area but that they were making an exception so mom could see me before she was shipped out (uh-oh bad feeling #3).  I get to the area and not only does mom still have her IV and catheter in but she is also now hooked up to oxygen, ekg, pulse ox and two or three additional IV's (one of which was designated for blood transfusions).  I remember a calm peaceful feel to the area as the nurses were all scrambling (uh-oh bad feeling #4) and at one point her pulse-ox fell off her toe and the machines started beeping but without even thinking I just put it back on her and the alarm stopped.  The one thing she asked of me was to call my aunt and NOT call my grandma at all!  

The ambulance was just arriving so I really didn't even get to talk to mom before hand (she was obviously quite groggy and confused).  I was not impressed with the ambulance man (AM) but the ambulance woman (AW) was really nice.  I asked immediately that I wanted to go with her in the ambulance and AM said 'no', AW then explained that they had to take a nurse with her so there would be no room for me.  At this point I am just searching my brain as to what to say / ask.  I told them that she had back pain for a long time that was termed as arthritis (learned this could be a symptom) and that made them even more put a bit more hurry in their step.  I then asked if they needed her medications - AM 'no', AW no we don't need them we have all that information on her forms and that 'big city' would handle her medications in hospital.  I asked if they wanted my dad's cell phone and explained that we were 'switching off' and once again AM says 'no' and AW tells me that they have me listed as a contact person and made sure that if I was called I could get any information to my dad (which I could) as they don't like having more than one phone number attached to each patient.  As they are strapping her all up, all I kept saying was that she was claustrophobic.  I needed to make sure that they knew that as I did not want mom having a panic attack in the ambulance on the way there.  AM didn't even acknowledge me where AW told me thank you for the information, made a mark on the clipboard and smiled at me.  I then asked where they were going and both AM, AW and a few other nurses all told me the same hospital (old children's hospital) so I knew where to send my dad.  They took her off and I was left with just a nurse and got out in to the hallway and was trying so hard to cry but when the nurse gave me a hug I broke down.  She just kept repeating what all the other doctor's and nurses I had seen had said - "This is a good thing!".  In my mind I knew it was but was still in shock about it all.  The nurse then told me that it was good as they could do non-emergent surgery and get it out before anything bad happened and that Dr. P did the right thing.  She walked me to the end of her unit, turned me around to look at me and asked if I was okay or did I want her to call me a cab.  I said I was fine and needed to get home so dad could leave.  She said to tell dad not to hurry (really?!?!?) as he might not even get to see her between tests until after surgery.

I called home and told dad that I was on my way home and that he could leave then (I had already told him where she was going and that he should pack an overnight bag for a few days just in case).  He said that he would wait until I got home and I was really mad about that.  I thought he should have left the minute I told him they were sending her to 'big city' but apparently he told mom that in his heart he had to see that I was okay before he left me here alone (K was at school).  We did a quick switch off and he tells me that he has called my nan already and a few other people that I was to keep informed as to what was going on. 

Then I sank on the couch.  From coming from such chaos and emotions and all of a sudden it was very overly quiet.  I knew that I should go lie down for an hour or so before K got home from school as I had told dad that he was to stay in 'big city' as long as mom was there and to not worry about me or K, that I had everything covered.  But that just wasn't an option with how fast my brain was running.  I called my Aunt (mom's side) and told her what I knew, what was going on and that I was basically leaving it up to her to relate the news to nan and my cousins, which she was fine with I might add.  I then called our neighbours (we have lived beside them for 23 years) and they said to keep them informed and that they were there day and night if I needed anything.  I will say though that I was disappointed with one person.  The only real friend I have around her, when I texted her and asked if she was free she said she was just heading out of town to go shopping with her mom and then asked if everything was okay and I said no.  I would have liked her to just cancel her trip but I know it wasn't that easy.  Then our good family friend (that came to talk to mom and I when the problems with my brother were going on from a few posts ago) was out of town on her honeymoon and I could only get her answering machine on her cell so had no option than to just leave a message (she felt horrible after!)  Anyways, I didn't want to be making a pile of phone calls so I decided that since most of dad's family was on facebook, I would just do updates on there. Ironically at that time it all worked out. My one set of aunt and uncle don't have facebook but their daughters do and the one was online at that time and called her parents.  My next set go on sporadically but her best friend was on so she called my aunt, same situation with my last set.  I felt horrible but I realized the next day that I did have another set of aunt and uncle not connected to facebook but found out another aunt had kept her up to date.

I ended up having one run in with a cousin (mom's side) when she posted on one of my facebook updates that 'someone' really needed to call my nan and let her know what was going on.  I was mad about that as my aunt on that side was the one person who I was telling everything to as soon as I heard anything.  I literally would hang up the phone with dad and call her.  I politely (I hope) basically said that since I was home alone with K I didn't want to be making endless phone calls and end up upsetting him.  I had told him when he got home that nanny had to have a different surgery by a new doctor in 'big city' but that was it.  I heard from dad late afternoon that they had taken her up for a CT scan and that they no longer thought it was an aneurysm but that they weren't sure what it was.  The vascular surgeon had been in and signed off on her so they were waiting for a new doctor to come and look her over.  At this point I was just all over the place so I just ordered pizza for supper.  When we got back the neighbour across the street was home so I went over to tell her what was going on and she said that she would leave her phone by her bed and for me to call her at anytime for anything.  Our other long-time neighbour echoed that.

I just went to start eating and I get a phone call from another family friend.  This family lived behind us for years and they watched my grow up and mom and dad watched their kids grow up.  They moved but dad is still good friends with them.  Ironically, she had been the OR nurse in the OR with mom which was strangely comforting that mom had someone there to hold her hand when she went under.  She wanted to know what was going on!  Apparently they originally thought it was a mass on her kidney so they called in a urologist but then she had to leave (not sure why) and when she got 'back' she found out they had sent mom to 'big city' with an aneurysm and had debated on calling or not.  I gave her the updates and she was relieved to hear it was not an aneurysm and that it was getting dealt with.  I told her I would keep her updated and call when I heard more and she had the nicest answer 'If you have time that's okay but don't worry about keeping my updated as I am sure you have your hands more than full talking to enough people'.  Someone understood.

Around 7ish I found out that it was a large cyst but they didn't know where it was attached but suspected the intestines and that they had met with the general surgeon and even though they needed to get it out, it wasn't an emergency and could be scheduled for another time.  He assured dad that it wouldn't be horribly long wait (we have dealt with 'big city' and surgery before).  At that point dad wasn't sure if they were sending mom home for the night, if they were staying there or what was going on so I assumed that he would be there over night and I was in charge of K for the night.  A few more calls and updates later and around 10 dad calls again saying they are shipping her home for the night so he is driving back, making sure she gets settled into her room and then will be home.  I figured since K was kinda out of sorts and I was exhausted I wasn't even going to bother trying to get him to sleep in his own bed (an ongoing battle) and just had us both curl up in mom's bed and tried to go to sleep.  But he knew dad was coming home, and I didn't want to sleep until dad got home, so we were up until 11:30ish that night.  I had set my alarm for the morning but dad got up with him and off to school. 

So that was Monday, October 1st, 2012.  It's a day I will never forget!  There is still more to tell but this is already novel length so I will post more tomorrow (or in a few days) about what has happened since.

Want to know the strangest thing?  As soon as Dr. P. said it was an abdominal aortic aneurysm my very first thought was...... "But she doesn't have EDS".

WTF - Brother

So, as always, when things start to actually look positive and things seem to be going well, my brother has to go and fuck things up.  Always happens, and I am the only family member to actually realize it always will happen.  I know this is horrible to say, and 99.99999% of people could never even fathom it, but I would be quite happy if he just up and disappeared.  The only way I would be sad at his death is because my parents and K would be sad. 

After a great concert weekend with my friend, a trip to see family and take the kids to Wonderland, a local amusement park and time on the beach we come home to more new news.  First off, that evening mom came into my room and told me that K and his fiance had broken up and that she wanted to tell me to keep me up to date with what is going on (that is a first in my life!).  She told me that he has not been using but that he is going to go and give NA (Narcotics Anonymous) another go to get his life straightened around.  Apparently his fiance had cheated on him with one of his friends that lived with them and he had proof.  She also told me that the fiance and friend had been smoking a lot of pot.  I basically bit my tongue to prevent an "I told you so" and then got mad that they knew this was going on yet they still allowed my nephew to go over to the place.  Apparently it was never when the friend was around but still really bothered me.  This was on Tuesday.

On Friday K showed up at the house and apparently told my nephew that he had broken up with his fiance and that he was going away for a while to get his life back on track.  Nothing more was said.  My mom was having trouble with her facebook because K had used her computer to check out his facebook.  My parents went out for dinner that night and my nephew was at a dance so I figured I would go on and get my mom's facebook all set up the way it should be for her.  Well I looked around a bit and found a post from my brother stating that he was so messed up this time and couldn't believe how erratic he could get and that he was 5 days clean at the time.  That had been posted on the Wednesday so he apparently got clean on Friday (20th).  Once my parents got home and I got mom alone I flat out told her that either K was lying to them or that they were lying to me and told her about the post.  She claimed she knew and was going to talk to me about that and apologize.  Why apologize?  Well I had been telling her for months that K was on something.  His behaviour clearly showed that he was using something but no one had believed me.  My nephew even told me one night that his dad (K) chewed up his pills before swallowing them.  I told mom about this (my nephew told me this around the end of June) and she confronted K about this and he told him that it was just Tylenol and that he was trying to show my nephew how he could take pills easy (my nephew has issues with taking medications).  K told mom that he couldn't be on anything because his job did random drug testing.  I called him on that lie (he was off work at the time for once) but mom believed him.  I pointed out specific erratic behaviour and she said that yes, in hindsight it was easy to see.  I basically started to cry and said that I was getting sick and tired of being the 'bad person' and getting into fights because I was the only one who could see through K's lies but no one else would accept it.  I was told that it was okay and that he had gone off to a larger city (about an hour away) to check himself into detox and that he would be staying there for awhile to get things sorted out.

On Sunday I woke up because my dog was barking like crazy and no one was letting him out.  I got up and went upstairs to find the lovely sight of my brother, mom and nephew in my mom's room talking.  He stayed for a few hours or so and then left again.  Apparently he told mom he was back in town that day because he was starting back to work and the doctor had given him the go ahead to go back to work but because he had been off so long that he had to come back and go through training again (on a Sunday?  I don't buy this lie).  Mom and I exchanged quite a few words about it that day but nothing too momentous.

Then today. Mom, my nephew and I went in to town today to do my nephew's back to school shopping, go to see Ice Age 4 in 3D, do some other shopping and get some supper.  K became a topic of conversation so I took me chance and asked if anyone even knew where he was.  Apparently he went to the detox center an hour away but they wouldn't take him because he wasn't 'sick enough', he had no where to stay in our hometown so was going to stay in the larger town (where the detox was, about an hour away).  But he had been back in our town to go through re-training for his job and that he was having problems because he couldn't get welfare in bigger city. So many contradictory stories that no one else can see through.  Anyways, we had a good day out (dad was at a car show about 3.5 hours away) and we unloaded the car and brought everything inside.  I went down stairs to get my PJ's on and put my stuff away and came upstairs to find mom checking the voicemail messages.  This is basically what we heard:

"Hi Dad, it's K. Umm, I am in the ICU in [hometown] (laugh), umm I did a bad testosterone shot in my leg and they diagnosed it as a flesh eating virus. Umm, [fiancee] is my emergency contact but I can't find her so can you find her let her know what's going on.  Oh, I can't get welfare in [big city] so I don't know what's going on. Oh, also I am calling you because my truck is parked out in front of emerge and I need someone to go get it." (First Message)

"Hi Dad, it's me again. Umm I can't get in touch with [fiance], she's listed as my emergency contact and you guys are second.  Could you drive over to her place and tell her that K's got a flesh eating virus and doesn't know if he is going to live or not?  They are going to take me to the OR within the hour.  Can you call [fiance] at [phone number].  Tell her that I love her and if I survive this or not I still love her.  I love you guys too.  And [my nephew] and [me].  Man I never saw this coming." (Second Message)

So of course with dad not home, it's just mom by herself to figure this all out.  She goes and finds the number to the hospital and calls ICU.  Apparently he did a steroid injection in his leg and got a flesh eating virus in it (I assume it was a dirty needle, he already has Hep-C from this).  They took him into surgery and removed all of the affected area that they could see.  He is in the ICU hooked up to a ventilator and sedated and they will do another operation tomorrow to see if they missed any areas.  Then mom had to call the police to let them know about the truck as she couldn't go and get it until my dad got home.  She tried a few times to get in touch with the ex-fiancee but all she kept getting was the answering machine for the guy who she slept with when she cheated on him and didn't leave a message.  Dad got home and they went back in to town to get his truck and that is where we are now.  He always manages to get himself into trouble but no one wants to admit that it is his own fault because of the many bad decisions he has made throughout his life.  It is all because of him and only him.

This is where I get upset.  When I went downstairs to talk to mom right after she got off the phone with the ICU nurse (she also changed his emergency contact information to be them and not the fiancee) she said she didn't know what was going to happen.  He has no where to go in the big city and can't get welfare and he has no where to stay here when he gets out.  He is her son and she can't just see him released out of the hospital and on to the streets.  I just told her to remember who the number one priority was (my nephew obviously) before she makes any decisions.  I honestly do not know what I would do if he comes and moves in here for a while.  I literally get physically sick being around him and could not tolerate him staying here.  His few hours a week visiting my nephew is bad enough!  Well I guess I should get to bed as it will be a long day tomorrow.

Summer Fun Part 3 - Time With Family

We always make sure to spend at least a week up at my grandma's house.  She and both of my cousins (and their families) all live in the same townhouse co-op so the family is all nice and close.  My aunt and her fiance / common-law / boyfriend live about half an hour away from all of them.  As in the last post, we had planned that we were going to head to Wonderland on the Thursday but that was part way through our trip.  At the time we didn't realize it, but this was our summer vacation as the news we got when we returned home made it clear that no other traveling would be happening.  For simplicity I will name the 'nicknames' for the family.  Nan is nan obviously and she is my mom's mother (my only grandparent left actually and we make sure to see her multiple times a year), My aunt is my mothers younger sister and we will call her AD (we will call her partner UK).  My cousin J is the oldest and CK is the youngest. D1 and D2 are CK's two children.  Both cousin's are married but we barely saw them this trip so I don't need to give them labels.

On monday night, I took S back to the train station then did a few small errands around town before heading home.  I was planning on packing on Tuesday morning but kept thinking of things to add to my 'to-pack' list so I just gave up and got out of bed and packed up my suitcase and just left my 'catch-all / carry-on' back for the morning.  I got up early on Tuesday and helped mom pack all the last minute items and made sure that K had all the stuff that he would need for the car ride (which was around 4 hours in length).  We stopped at the Tim Horton's about 20 minutes into the trip to get Iced Cap's (Lemonade for K) and a bunch of donuts for the ride.  We decided against our normal lunch stop at the half-way mark and instead made out lunch stop about half an hour later.  We just got out to walk around a bit and got some McD's to eat in the car (the restaurant was packed and the van was air-conditioned).  Finally about half an hour before our destination we stopped at "Hi-Berry Market" and got some fresh strawberries, mini potatoes and a bunch of fresh corn on the cob.  We got there slightly before supper time and since Nan didn't know when  we would be there (we didn't either) we just went over to Zehrs and got a breaded chicken special and a few items that we needed to get for that night.  Nothing else was really done that night, K went off and played with his cousins and we just sat around talking.  Had a pretty early night as we were all quite tired from the drive up (why does traveling take so much energy?)

I had planned on doing absolutely nothing on Wednesday so that I could rest up and 'prepare' for Wonderland the next day.  Instead we quickly realized that I had forgotten to pack a tank top and over shirt and K had forgotten his old running shoes to wear in the water park area.  So somehow a trip that was just supposed to be me, mom, nan and K turned out to include all of us four plus both cousins and the two boys so we had 8 people total who all had to get different things.  We ended up splitting up with K and me going to find me some shirts and K some shoes, my CK taking her two boys to get hair cuts, mom and nan to do some grocery shopping for nan and J headed off to find some things she needed as well.  It didn't go to bad surprisingly and I was able to get everything I needed.  We got home and J and I (as well as CK) started discussing everything we needed to take (she didn't even think of taking the boys health cards just in case!).  We made lots of lists, got a cooler, froze water bottles and packed snack foods for the next day and all tried to get an early night.  Of course I have already posted what happened on the Thursday when we went to Wonderland.

Obviously Friday was always going to be a write-off as I was in so much pain and so tired.  It was today that mom and I learned that CK is most likely on quite a deal more 'medication' than she actually is on.  She came in mid-day and was very obviously stoned.  A few other times this week mom and I just looked at each other like 'they are all delusional to think this is normal'.  I actually didn't even get dressed until just before supper and that was only because I found out that my great aunt and uncle were coming over for a visit to see mom and I so I figured the least I could do was put on some normal clothes lol.  It had been about a year and a half since we had seen them so we had a good catch up and conversation.  They talked about how my mom's cousin was really sick with brain and lung cancer and how horrible it was (she later did pass away soon after we got home from nan's place).  CK came over that evening and told me it was her husband's company picnic the next day at Storybook Gardens and wanted to know if K and I wanted to go (of course we won't mention that she had no way to get there if I said no).  I wasn't too sure as I didn't really want to be alone with her all day but when mom asked if she could go as well as I might not be good for driving (had dislocated it that day) it sounded great.

The picnic was to start around 11 on Saturday so I got to sleep in a little bit at least.We had a pretty good day.  There was a treasure hunt type of game and the whole day was based on super heroes.  They had a pile of food - hamburgers, sausage, hot dog and chicken; every salad you could think of; lots of cookies and bars and any type of drink you could want.  We all played a game of mini golf (which I won :D), walked around and saw all of the animals in the small zoo (donkeys, monkeys, llamas and a bunch more, nothing exotic but still exciting enough for the kids) and then the boys went on a few different amusement park rides (K went on a scrambler type and a Ferris wheel).  We then headed back to the front so we could get the water stuff and it started to rain.  Thankfully it did not last long and during that time we ended up getting some fries for the kids to share.  Once the rain past we got all the stuff and headed to the back of the park where they had three different slides.  They were all too big for the smallest slide but were able to go on the other and did so for about an hour or so before we headed back to Nans.  We had plans the next day to go to the beach so just spent another low-key night sitting out front and talking while watching the kids play badminton in the parking lot area.

Mom let me sleep in for a while on Sunday as well and then woke me up when nan was ready to go!  I got up very quickly and jumped in the shower and very quickly packed up my zebra bag with stuff I would need for the day.  The beach is about half an hour away without traffic, and being a Sunday there was traffic.  We passed by a McD's on the way so mom went through and got all the boys something to eat and drink which thankfully kept them quiet most of the way (we were packed in, four adults and three kids, all the boys had to sit in the back bench together).  We got there shortly after lunch and everyone was there (except for J and CK's husbands who were working) and we just sat around talking for a while and then got organized as to who was going to go to the beach.  CK tried to get out of it but AD said no, they are your kids blah blah blah.  So it ended up being mom, me, AD, CK and the three boys.  We stayed at the beach for a few hours then headed back to AD's house for a BBQ supper and then left around 7:30ish.  The ride home was trying as the three boys would not behave went from extremes of asking them nicely to stop all the way to yelling at them and CK threatening hers with telling their dad.  Finished the day same as the others with sitting outside talking and watching the kids.

Nothing happened on Monday.  Mom wanted to do some cleaning things for nan as no one up there will help out with it, mom even got CK's husband to come over and re-do her dining room table as it was getting quite wobbly and nan depended on it to get up and down so needed that fixed.  She also got him to look at the dryer as it was getting so hot and they were worried it was a fire hazard.  Turns out the tube from the back of the dryer to vent outside had come undone and was just venting in to the apartment.  We finished the day off with mom, nan, me and the three boys watched "Johnny English" on DVD.  Tuesday was the day we left and was as uneventful as the way up.  Stopped at "Hi-Berry Farms" again to get strawberries, pickling cucumbers, corn, dill, garlic and some tomatoes.  Talked most of the way home about things that had gone on and our opinions on other things, got home mid-afternoon but K said he was too tired to go to karate that night.  Slept for a few days afterwards but all in all it was a pretty good trip.  The news we got after made things get tricky.

Summer Fun Part 2 - Wonderland

I have always wanted to take K to Wonderland, and thankfully things worked out so well this summer that not only did I get the chance to take him there, it also worked out that we went with other family members.  My cousin (J) and her sisters two sons who are my cousins (D1 who is 14.5 and D2 is 11.5) along with myself and K (who is 10.5 - we had all Christmas babies!), were able to get there when we had been up in their area (about 3.5 hours from where we live).  We had planned some things in advance - as in J was going to do the driving because I couldn't, at minimum I would be taking the younger kids to the "Dinosaurs Alive" park, we were going to spend a few hours at "Splash Works" and were going to take food with us to try and save some money.  Once we got to OS (where my extended family lives) and J and I got together, we had to do a bit of shopping the day before and then got packed the night before we left.  We planned that instead of us carrying all of our bathing suits and towels around all day that we would just keep them in the van and just carry what we needed then we could just pop out to the van (I have a handicap parking permit) before and after the water park to change items.  D1 had just been there with his school trip and informed us that they no longer allowed you to bring food into the park.  So instead I came up with the idea to just take a pile of snack food for the kids to eat on the way there, we could grab snack items while at the van after the water park and then the kids would have snacks for the ride home at night and we could just go together and get a late lunch / early supper while we were there.  I packed up the bag of stuff for K and I (water bottles we could refill, electrolyte juice mix, sunscreen, money, iPod, cell phone and other miscellaneous items that we might need.

So we left OS at 7am to head out and stopped at the Tim Horton's to get our breakfast and caffeine before we headed out on the venture (I got an Iced Cap and a Sour Cream glazed donut, K got an Ice Lemonade and Double Chocolate donut).  Just as we were leaving the parking lot we got a call that my cousins had forgotten their shoes and stuff for the water park.  So we went back to get those and started out again.  I don't know what I had thought, but I didn't realize it was a good 2.5 hour drive from OS to get there! We had to make a quick detour so J could stop at a bank to get some money out and then got to the park and found a nice close parking spot around 9:45am.  We took our time sorting out what had to go in each backpack (we had two one for me and one for J), making sure all the kids (and me!) were coated in sunscreen and got in line to get in to the park at 10.  We got into the park and got some maps and decided that we would just start in the one corner and make our way around the park.  The first thing we had to do though was to get K and D2 measured so that we knew what colour rides they could go on.  Even though there is only about an inch between the two we didn't really worry about it until the kids came back to us and K had an orange wrist strap on and D2 had purple.  They somehow managed to be in two different height categories!!  We didn't make a big deal of it though as D2 is pretty sensitive about his height.  The first non-roller coaster ride that we got to the two younger ones wanted to go on it.  So while K and D2 were on the "Spinovator" J and I made the choice that we might as well split up as the younger ones didn't want to do roller coasters much but wanted to see the dinosaur park where D1 didn't care about the dinosaurs but wanted to go on roller coasters.  We had each other's cell phone numbers and said we would stay in contact through text messages and that we could meet up in the early afternoon and regroup and figure up where we were going to go from there.  The kids wanted to try at least one roller coaster so we decided that "The Fly" would be the mellowest and least scary of rides. The boys were quite happy and excited to go on the ride right up until the last minute.  We go to get in the cart and the attendant said that I had to sit with D2.  So K was in the front seat by himself with the bag (that the attendant said was fine and didn't have to be left on the deck!) and D2 and I were in the backseat.  We hadn't even got to the top of the first hill and both boys were deciding that they no longer wanted to be on the ride!!  So I had one hand on K's shoulder in the front seat and my other arm around D2 in the back beside me and half way through the ride I her J and D1 calling me because the water bottle that was attached to our backpack had fallen out and was dragging along the track!  Well that ended up making me very very anxious!!  I had always thought the roller coasters weren't going to be a good idea for me because my joints but I never even thought of the POTS.  I swear my heart rate was at least 200bpm and I was shaking like a leaf while having to 'console' two kids who now hated roller coasters.  I had almost got them convinced to go on another ride right after that but they wouldn't have it so at that point I just basically gave up on the idea of going on rides and figured we would just get to the main attraction for them.

We headed to the back of the park and found "Dinosaurs Alive".  It was this big area and had over 40 life sized anamatronic dinosaurs in different situations.  It was at this point that I realized that J not only had D2's water bottle but she also had all of his money.  So I paid for the admission for all three of us (only $6 for the park and the 3D movie after) and we had a really really good time.  It was amazing to see just how big (and in some, how small) the dinosaurs were.  It was very very fun.  At the end of it was the souvenir store, the "Dinostore" so of course we all got some items.  I bought a magnet, a sand-art logo thing and was able to get four rolled pennies (I collect these from where ever I see them, have some from Florida, Baltimore, Toronto Zoo etc).  K also decided to buy his 'big' souvenir from her and got a glow-in-the-dark t-shirt as well as a key chain and a sand-art.  D2 wanted to buy a t-shirt too so I told him to call J and ask her (I was not going to be responsible for what he bought!) and while talking to J we figured out where to meet up again.  We met up just outside the "Action Theater" to watch "Dinosaurs 3D" (which J and D1 had to pay $3 each for admission).  It was okay but not as good as we thought it would be.  It was more educational than fun but still had really good 3D effects.  We come to find out at this point that J and D1 had eaten lunch before meeting up, and since we were at the far end of the park, K and I got some french fries and split a sprite at "Hot Potato".  We then quickly ducked into the "Snoopy Boutique" were I got a t-shirt for brothers ex-fiance's daughter (obviously didn't know of the split then) and K got this pretty cool pop gun.  We checked out our map and found out that a bunch of the shows were going to start soon so we decided to go to that area so we could catch a few.  At this point I figured it would be a good idea to get out some more money (had planned on using my debit card mostly but it was much easier with cash) so while D1 was on a quick ride with the younger ones watching I popped over to the arcade to quickly get some money.


We got back to the front of the park and went to the "Wonderland Theatre" at 3:30 to watch the show. "Cirque Ambiente" was amazing.  They had contortionists, jugglers, bike tricks, roller blade tricks and just a lot more.  It was really good and I think that after seeing it the kids actually liked it (they hadn't wanted to see the show but J and I insisted lol).  We were back in the area we started the day out at so K and D2 wanted on the "Spinovater" again.  J waited for them while D1 and I headed to check out the arcade for prices and prizes.  We decided it was too much but I did find another penny rolling machine.  We headed back and decided to stay in the area because the other show that we wanted to see was going to be on in about 30 minutes.  So I went and found a good place to sit in "Arthur's Bay" while J went and got  some of us ice cream at "Dairy Queen" and D1 watched K and D2 when they went on the "Spinovator" yet again.  We had pretty good seats and all really enjoyed the show "Kinet-X" which was a lot of high diving stunts mixed in with a good deal of martial arts that K was really impressed with.  At this point (almost 5pm) we decided that we should head out to the van and get our stuff to go to the water park.  We made one quick stop at this really cool kiosk in the medieval area then out to the van.  We quickly changed our bags over and put on sandals (instead of running shoes) and headed back in to the park.  We made a quick stop at the ride called "Backlot Stunt Coaster" but the line was quite long and no one wanted to wait which sucked as it was the one ride that I was looking forward too.

We got back to "Splash Works" and got one locker at "Splash Surf Shop" and got changed into our bathing suits.  I was quite surprised as K took his shirt off, he hasn't been doing that lately as he thinks he is too skinny (which he is but not unhealthy and we don't focus on it).  Ahead of time I had told K that we probably would only go on one slide together as I wouldn't be able to do all the stairs but at that point he didn't really care about the water park as he had got a scare on the little slide at the water park in our hometown.  We found a little free area on the grass and dropped off our towels and sandals and decided to go on the ride closest to us first.  We got our inner tubes and climbed all the stairs to the top of "Whirlwinds", this was when D2 and K were getting nervous.  D1 had no fears and went down first and then I suggested that maybe J should go down too and that way there was an adult down there to catch them and one up on the deck (me) to get them down.  It took a good five minutes but after all the "I'll do it if he does its" D2 finally stepped in the water and the attendant and I were quick to get him down before he had a chance to back out lol then K went down fine after that with my following him.  We then all decided to go on the "Lazy River" so all got in our inner tubes and gently floated through the water park so the kids could see all the different slides.  When we got to the end we had a a problem, or I had a problem.  I did not have enough strength in my legs to push myself out of the tube and there was nothing to grab onto so I could pull out of the tube so I ended up falling over the side, nudging my 'good' kneecap out of place and scraping the knee quite roughly.  We basically split up again and J and D2 kept doing laps in the lazy river while K, D1 and I headed over to the "Barracuda Blaster" which was awesome!  Slight issues as the lady at the bottom of the slide told D1 that you got the inner tubes at the top of the slide (which of course was wrong) so K and I ended up in a partially deflated tube and then once we got out of the basin part of the slide we ended up backwards down the last tube!  At the bottom instead of even trying to struggle out of the tube I just flipped over. When I came up above water K had wide eyes asking "Nini are you okay?!?!".  After that ride I knew that I couldn't safely do anymore stairs so after quite a talk with D1 I let him and K head off to go on other slides.  I managed to meet up with J and D2 and they were going to do one more slide so I told them I would meet up with them at "Whitewater Bay" when they were done.  We stayed there for a while then decided to head back to our towels as the water park was going to be closing soon.  When we got back K and D1 weren't back yet so J and D2 went on Whirlwinds again while I waited for everyone to get back.  K and D1 got back to the towel and rattled off what they had gone on (Body Blast x2, Riptide Racer, Super Soaker and Blackhole) and once J and D2 got back we went back to "Splash Surf Shop" to get changed before heading back out to the van once again.

After switching out our backpacks again (and switching to a long sleeved shirt for me and D1) we decided that it was time to get some supper (it was about 7:30) and figured the easiest and cheapest thing to do was to just get a large pizza and split it.  Well I knew K wouldn't eat pizza so we made a quick stop at "International Gelato & Gourmet Popcorn" where I got K some salt & vinegar popcorn (D1 got dill pickle) and then we went over to "Ristorante Pizza Pizza" and bought a large pepperoni and "Fresh Squeezed Lemonade" for some strawberry lemonade (pop for K)  and was surprised when K downed two whole slices of pizza (yay I got him back on another food!).  We then walked around a bit and found this carnival game that was Pokemon themed ("Pokemon Water Gun Game" is what we labeled it, aren't we original lol).  We played one game and D2 won and got to pick out a prize and obviously the kids wanted to play again so we did and D1 won that game but was very very kind and let K pick out a prize instead.  We then went through a few stores ("Locker Room" and "Thrills are Wonderland") until around 9 when J declares that she is tired and needs to go back to the van to rest for a bit.  I was not impressed with this as that left me with all three kids and I am the disabled one with many health problems and she decides that she needs a rest!!!  The kids and I went to one more store, "Streetwear Ladies Fashion Apparel" (which was nothing like the name implies) and I found a cute little stuffed animal for my friend who is currently pregnant.  The kids then wanted to play "Pokemon Water Gun Game" again and funny enough, K won this game and gave his prize to D1 and even though they picked out the same stuffed animal, they changed animals so they got the one chosen from their winning game lol.  Around this time my cell phone rings and when I pick it up it's my mom.  She asks if we are almost home and I laughed saying we hadn't left yet and wouldn't be for at least another hour.  She was slightly shocked I think but said she would leave the door unlocked (realized then we didn't have a house key).  We then stopped off at a little souvenir kiosk as D1 hadn't got himself a souvenir yet then headed back to the front area so we could get a good seat for the light show.  We were only there a few moments before "Starlight Spectacular" started at 10 and was really entertaining and the kids loved it.  All through this time I had been texting J to see where she was as I thought she was supposed to be meeting us to see it but kept getting no reply so gave up.  We stayed a few minutes after the light show to see all the fountains light up in different colours which was really pretty before heading back the final time to the van.

We got back to the van around 10:30 and got things organized for the trip home.  Made sure all the kids had used the bathroom, everyone had a drink, a comfy place where they could sleep (we hoped!) and snacks in case they wanted anything to eat.  J was going on about how tired she was and she even stopped off at Tim Horton's and got herself something to drink (didn't ask if anyone else wanted anything which was annoying and I wasn't in the best of mood with her at that point).  I told her that if she was too tired to just let me know (and get me out of the heavy traffic of the city) and I would drive the rest of the way home.  I figured she would just brush it off and keep driving as that was part of the agreement of her doing the driving.  But after about 1.5 hours she was obviously tired so we pulled over and I took over driving the last hour home.  We got back to nan's and sent D1 and D2 back to their place to go to bed, J went home and K and I went in to nans.  K didn't even change his clothes and just fell into bed sound asleep (both him and D2 slept the majority of the way home, D1 listened to his iPod so it was nice and quiet).  Of course, lovely POTS issues as they are, I was wide awake.  Was on an adrenaline high so even though we got home around 1:15am, I didn't end up falling asleep until 3am which meant I had been awake for 20 hours straight!!  It was a very good day and surprisingly I didn't suffer all that much from it which was a definite bonus.  More about our holiday week in the next post or so.

Summer Fun Part 1 - Concert Weekend

Every year my town (well the biggest town next to it) holds a music festival for a weekend.  Generally we end up with quite a few big name artists coming and when I found out that Hedley would be here this year I knew that I was not going to miss it! Really regretted not going to Marianas Trench last year, wasn't doing that again.  The big question was - who was I going to go with.  When tickets went on sale that was not a big question though and I went and bought two VIP tickets as I knew I could find someone to go with.  At first K (10 year old nephew) thought that he might like to go with me but quickly backed down for some reason.  So I sent my friend S (went to university together and hadn't seen each other for three years at this point, though we kept in contact through MSN and emails) a message and asked if he wanted to go. He wrote back that he hadn't heard of them (What?!?!?) but would love to go.  So I sent him the list of the other performers for the weekend and he wanted to go see The Offspring too so I bought tickets for those, though not VIP because they were quite a bit more money being the night headliner concert (Hedley was the afternoon show).

I guess I should explain what VIP means at this festival (No I am not going to give the name of the festival as I like to keep a little anonymity on this blog as it is quite personal - but it wouldn't be hard to figure out if you really really wanted to).  The stage is set up in the front (obviously) and then the audience section is divided into two equal parts - the licensed part (over 19) and unlicensed (for underagers or family).  Right in front of the stage (about to where the sound and lighting booths usually are) is divided into a further four sections total and that is the VIP area.  With VIP you get closer to the stage (obviously), your own beer tents, washrooms, separate entrances and places that you can sit down.  The worst VIP 'seat' is still closer than the best General Admission 'seat'.

So I picked S up from the train station late friday night.  We got home and basically talked for a short time then went to bed as he was tired from work and then the 5 hours on the train.  Saturday we spent a lot of time with K which was really neat to watch.  We took S under the bridge to see the boat races that were going on, to the fish hatchery, to get french fries and to just walk around.  At one point K wanted to go down to the little 'beach' area but you had to climb down these big rocks laid out like stairs and I knew that I just couldn't do it so S told him to come and K followed him down.  S showed him how to skip rocks on the water and they looked for cool rocks and shells and just goofed around.  At one point S play shoved him and K almost lost his balance and S very quickly grabbed him so he didn't fall.  It was quite cute lol.  We then went all the way to the other side of town and went to play mini golf, which S won, K got second and I lost.  We stopped at the store and got some movies and then headed back home for supper.  After supper we watched the movies that we rented (Sherlock Holmes and Moneyball) and tried to get to bed semi-early as I knew it was going to be a VERY busy day the next day!

Before we left that morning dad had suggested that we take umbrellas as it was supposed to rain that day.  According to the list of 'unallowed items' on the website umbrellas would not be allowed so S and I just hoped for the best and headed out.  We stopped quickly at the variety store on the corner to take the movies back and we rented the second Sherlock Holmes for the next day to watch.  We drove into town and found a parking spot that didn't seem to bad (and was free) until we started walking and realized that we were on the absolute opposite side of the venue that we were supposed to be at.  It rained a few drops on and off while waiting and then just as we were about to line up I realized that I left my wallet in the van and that I definitely needed it.  Thankfully S told me to just grab a seat on the hill and that he would walk back and get it for me!  I would have been so beat if I had to do that trip another two times!

Once we got in we decided to walk around and see what was going on in the different sections (you could move from VIP to GA but not GA to VIP).  I found the merchandise booth and bought myself a Hedley t-shirt (and got a plastic bag - very important later!).  There was even a Ben & Jerry's both where you could get free samples, you can't turn down free ice cream :)  The first act, USS, came on around this time and during their set (lasted about half an hour) S and I just kept edging our way closer to the stage.  After their set we went and got some drink tickets and got a drink (pop for me, beer for S) and went back to the stage area.  It kept raining a bit on and off during this time but not too had.  It was funny when Big Wreck took the stage as all the licensed side knew the songs but none of the under-agers did so they basically played to the 19+ crowed.  I knew most of the songs and they did quite a lengthy set of about 45 minutes.  As I had to buy two drink tickets (one ticket got one alcoholic beverage or two non-alcholic drinks) I went back to the booth and got some water, thankfully the lady there let me keep the lid briefly so I could put in my squeezy electrolyte juice in to keep dehydrated.  I then had to give it right back to her as they wouldn't let lids in the audience (they can be projectiles I guess).  When I got back to our 'spot' in the crowd it soon after started to massively rain.  We got completely drenched and I was very lucky that I had bought a t-shirt.  Why? Because I got a plastic bag to carry it in!  So I put all my stuff (wallet, phone, camera etc) and Scott's phone into the bag and tied it up because everything in my purse was drenched (it was a canvas material purse).  A few minutes later we got poked on the shoulder and these two girls behind us begged me to put their phones and cameras in the bag too, which I had enough room for so I did of course.  The set was delayed for 45minutes so started at 3:45 instead of 3.  To make things easier for me I am just going to post the setlist and the few notes that I made during / after the concert instead of typing them all up.  So here it is:

• One life
• 321 /On my own / Streetfight
• She's So sorry
• Bullet for Your Dreams
• For The Nights  I Can't Remember**[Jake on Piano]
• Hands up (Space Oddity Verse)
• Sweater Song [[Jake's Favourite Song]]
• Stormy**[Jake on Piano]
• Invincible
• Kiss You Inside Out
• Hot Mess
• Old School
• Don't Talk To Strangers
• [[Special time of year , 3/4 band summer b-days, no gifts throw what's in your hands on stage, best birthday is goody bags, band played "Beat It" while Jacob shot T-Shirts out of a cannon]]
• [[Band Intro - Tommy from Hometown]]
• Don't Talk To Strangers
• Never Too Late
[[Downpour!!!]]
[[Encore- "throw me all your pennies!!]]
• Cha-Ching

As we were leaving the VIP area, Jacob comes out from backstage on a Segway and gets stuck in the mud pit and managed to fall off not once but twice.  Security VERY quickly grabbed him and yanked him back stage again. We waited a bit at gates to see if they were going to sign autographs but some band members left in a van so we gave up on that and headed to the van to get semi-dry.  Got to the van and emptied out all our pockets and found some blankets and stuff to sit on.  I called home quickly to see if they had had supper yet (they had) and to let them know we were coming home to get changed.  My dad just laughed and said "Well you lasted a lot longer than I thought you would!".  We drove home (about a 20 minute drive!), got in the house and my mom just looked at us and laughed.  She asked if S was allergic to any soaps or not and told us just to throw all our clothes in the tub and she would take care of them.  We quickly got changed (and I had to find another purse to use) and decided to go and quickly grab a bite at Taco Bell where I ran into an old friend who also was at Hedley so it was nice to see her even though I think S talked to her more as my mind was just not working because of all the stuff going on (pain, tiredness, dehydration etc).  We went back into town and this time, since my legs were already painful, I decided that we were going to pay for parking so I didn't have to walk as far.  It wasn't bad as we parked at the Humane Society for $10 and basically parked right at the end of the venue.  Basically as soon as I parked the car the rain came pounding down again.  Since we didn't really care about the first opening act we decided to just sit and rest for a few minutes and wait for the rain to die down.

The rain finally stopped so we headed into the venue.  Papa Roach had already started but I didn't mind.  You could barely understand a word that he said and every other word out of his mouth was a swear word, which I found wrong at a 'family friendly' festival.  I think I only recognized one or two of their old songs.  S and I walked around a bit and went to the merchandise stand again where I bought a Simple Plan key chain and necklace (didn't know if K would want something as he likes a few of their songs so I bought two souvenirs).  For some reason they put Simple Plan as the second opening act which has nothing to do with Papa Roach before them or the Offspring show after.  Because of this a lot of people left after Papa Roach so S and I were able to slowly get close to the barrier dividing VIP from GA. Simple Plan came on and were pretty good and after a while a lady went by the front of the barrier once handing papers to a bunch of people which made it so that I was right at the barrier and S (who is quite tall) was right behind me.  about 2/3rd of the way through Simple Plan's 45 minute-ish set the lady comes back through and hands me a free upgrade to VIP!  However because S was behind me, he didn't get one.  A younger man was walking behind the lady and I called him and asked if I could get another one for S.  He looked at me, then looked at S and smiled and handed me another ticket.  So we both got VIP upgrades (about $100 worth) free for the headline show!.

We grab a couple of drinks along the way and head up to the VIP section.  Because Simple Plan was still on, it wasn't too crowded and we were able to get really close to the stage.  The Offspring finally comes on around 10pm (was supposed to go on at 9), and starts in on their 90 minute set.  However, there was a downside to VIP.  The section became a full on mosh pit with crowd surfing and fighting.  Mosh Pit + EDS = Very Very Bad!!! At one point a crowd surfer came our way and ended up falling on me.  S was very concerned especially when I told him that I was okay, my shoulder dislocated but went right back in.  S then went in to full on protector mode.  He made sure to keep himself between me and the rowdy guys, would take my arms and move me out of the way, and he probably got a lot more bruises protecting me than I actually did!  However it wasn't all bad, the show was really quite good and I was surprised that I knew a lot more of the songs that they did than I thought they did.  It rained through the show a bit as well so thankfully even though I was absolutely drenched in sweat, everyone else was also drenched because of the rain lol.  I enjoyed the show but also was starting to hope that it wasn't going to be too long as my legs were really starting to hurt. 

At the end of the show we were able to get back to the van quickly because of our parking spot and actually were able to see the band's tour bus exiting the venue.  There was so much traffic that we just sat in the van for a bit and got a drink and finally made my move to get out of the parking area.  After a good deal of time, and lots of police directing traffic, we finally got back to my house around 12:30.  We talked for a little bit and then I went to have a quick shower and headed to bed yet don't think I even fell asleep until 2am :S

On the Monday, S 'let' me sleep in a few extra hours.  I hadn't planned to but I guess after he told mom about the show the night before (and said he felt bad that I got pushed around so much in the mosh pit) they kind of decided together to let me get a bit more sleep which was really really nice.  After getting some food and figured out what we were going to do that day, we went and watched Sherlock Holmes 2.  Well more accurately, S watched SH2, I probably saw about 50% of it in short segments.  We then went out back and S and K went for a swim (I decided to stay out since I could barely walk!!!) then we had some supper and it was time for me to take S back to the train station so he could get home.  We swore that this time we were not going to let three years go without seeing each other!  After he got on his train, I had a few last minute errands to run as we were heading out the next day on another adventure!!

Amazing Day Part Two (THE JACKSONS!!!!!)

The lights dim and a movie starts playing on one of the display monitors.  However there is no sound.  A few seconds later the movie plays again with loud & very clear sound (This was opening night of the tour so a few technical glitches are to be expected).  Then the four brothers come out and the launch right in to "Can You Feel It" with each brother taking their turn at the chorus so you got to hear all four of their voices right off.  Tito was on the left, then Jackie, Marlon and Jermaine (for most of the show anyways) but for some reason Tito was not wearing his trademark bowler hat.  They kept on going through "Blame It On The Boogie", "Wanna Be Where You Are" then launched into Michael's popular single "Rock With You".  Pictures on the display screen alternated between the live concert, pictures of all the brothers on the Victory Tour and pictures of the four remaining Jackson's walking on a beach playing around.  "Show Me The Way To Go" was next and then into one of my favourites "Lovely One".  This is when it starts to get sad :(

A video montage of the Jackson family when they were young as in just starting out all the way to current images then started with "Where Here To Entertain You" accompanying it.  After a brief costume change they came back on and went through "Looking Through The Window", "Time Waits For No One", and "Push Me Away".  At this point you could tell that there were starting in on a tribute to their brother.  For the most part through the show Jermaine handled doing Michael's lyrics but Marlon then came forward and went right into "Man Of War" and then ended the song off by saying that we all need to study peace.  Jermaine then came forward and went in to Micheal's song "Gone Too Soon".  I don't think there were many dry eyes in the entire theatre and even Jermaine struggled to control his emotions and couldn't get the last few words out.  During this song there were many pictures of Micheal shown and surprisingly there even was a picture of him with his two oldest children (Prince & Paris).

After a respectful minute of quiet reflection, they started talking about the Motown days and Marlon went into a story about how when they first went to Detroit to audition for Berry Gordy at his house, Marlon and Micheal were too young to really understand how serious the moment was and instead of rehearsing, the two would sneak out onto Berry Gordy's personal golf course and that there were bet's of $100 for who ever could get a hole in one.  But that no matter how much goofing around they did, once they hit that stage they were pure business.  The got talking about some of the songs and joking around and then Tito went into "They want to hear 'I want you back', they want to hear 'ABC', so let's give it to them!" and they all went right into the positions that they used to stand in and dance like as kids.  They did a really good medley of all their early hits.  I completely enjoyed this part because I had seen 3T (Tito's sons) doing this medley on YouTube and thought it was neat that they used the exact same montage.  The songs in it were: "I Want You Back" / "ABC" / "The Love You Save" / "Never Can Say Goodbye" / "All I Do Is Think of You" / "I'll Be There"

At this point Tito, Jackie and Marlon left the stage and Jermaine stayed out to do a few of his solo songs.  I thought it was funny after when dad told me that they must be pushing 'that other one' out front now since Micheal was gone.  Had to explain to him that Jermaine actually pursued solo work before the others (besides Micheal's work when he was younger).  It was funny because I sat next to this older lady who got so majorly excited just to hear Jermaine.  He did "Dynamite", "Let's Get Serious" and "Do What You Do".  I never had really listened to the different brother's older solo material but did know these songs as they are on a few J5 compilation albums.  I did get back to the room though and download "Do What You Do" so I could listen to it (and a few other songs so I had them right on my iPod instead of having to search through my MP3 player for them).

The brother's returned for the last set of songs and launched straight in to Micheal's "Can't Let Her Get Away" before taking a break from singing and introducted all of the band members.  One of which they said had worked and gone on tour with Michael and The Jackson's before.  The then started in on the last set of songs including  "This Place Hotel (Heartbreak Hotel)" before surprisingly going into "Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'" which was one of Michael's bigger hits but is commonly known to actually be a song about the brother's wives getting involved in their music and messing things up so I was kinda shocked by that.  They finished the show off with one last Michael song "Don't Stop 'Til You Get Enough" and ended off the night with "Shake Your Body (Down to the Ground)"

Dad and I made our way out of the theatre and I was very disappointed to discover they were not selling any merchandise and the only way to have gotten a tour program was to be in the VIP seats (which I would have LOVED to do but just was not financially possible).  We headed out of the casino and eventually found our truck only to confirm dad's suspecion that yes, we had one very flat tire.  Add to this we couldn't even get in the passenger side door because the car next to ours was so close.  Thankfully the neighbouring cars all seemed to be people from the concert so it wasn't long until we had a large area to work with.  Very long story short is that an hour and a half later we were back on the road heading to our hotel.  I got my PJ's on, made a few facebook posts about the amazing concert we had just witnessed and then found out that it most likely wasn't the milk products that had upset my stomach the day before because I had the same problem again that night.

We got up early the next morning and since dad just wanted to get home and get the tire fixed we just headed to Timmy's and got some drinks and headed home.  Made a few pitstops on the way home for drinks and bathroom breaks but got home at a decent time.  I of course went straight to bed and stayed there pretty much straight through til Friday afternoon when we were holding my nephew's 10.5th birthday (he is a Christmas baby like me so mom hates through parties at that time so we do half party's with K, we used to do Easter time parties with me because that was my supposed-to-be birthday).  We ended up with 5 kids who got to play two games of lazer tag, do two climbs on the rock wall (only 3 attempted it, and only 1 of those did it more than once), pizza, cake, ice cream and playing in the 'ball room' (a netted off room with a soccer ball - not sure why it is so exciting lol).  We then headed home and I crashed for a good couple of days.  Finally by monday my stomach had finally settled down - just in time for my doctor's appointment wednesday (that will be another post!).

So All In All:

• 2 days
• 959.7 km
• 4 Jacksons
• 5 days to recover
• 1 amazing night that I will never forget!!!

Amazing Day Part One (Pre-Concert)

[Note: Again this is late in being posted so I am going to change the post date so it is on the date that this day actually happened.  Now isn't that confusing lol.  So I am writing on July 1st but this post will have been posted on June 21st to make it easier for me :D Also I apologize in advance but this is going to be a really really long post.  Lot's of back story and then all the events for a full 24 hour time frame.]

This was probably  one of my stupidest plans in all honesty.  I didn't even know what my dentist was going to do when I had my dental surgery and was just hoping that it was only fillings and everything went perfectly.  That was monday.  On Tuesday we were quick to assume that I was lactose intolerant again (I was as a child - just found this out recently) since all I had to eat after surgery was mainly dairy products (pudding, ice cream, chocolatae milk etc) and let's just say my stomach really really didn't like me and I spent from 5am until 2pm not daring to venture too far from the bathroom.  After everything was 'empty' mom made sure to make me some 'meals' that had no dairy in them for me to eat (Jello and chicken soup).  No body said it but we were all concerned for Wednesday.  Wednesday I had planned something that I should have never planned but there was no way I was going to let the opportunity pass me by!!!

Most people don't know this (at least on the blog I haven't mentioned it - but Sarah knows for sure lol) but I am a massive Jackson fanatic. It started out just being Micheal that I loved but then when his nephews (3T) came around I loved them too.  Then I started getting into the Jackson 5 and The Jacksons music (I was too young when the split to ever remember them).  My parents joked that I walked around the house singing "Beat It" before I could even talk in full sentances.  Over the years I have come to find that there isn't a Jackson who sings that I dont like.  And there are a lot of them!  I would say the most current Jackson's to put out music would be Taryll Jackson (1/3rd of 3T - Tito Jackson's middle child) and Austin Brown (Rebbie Jackson's son).  I have the vast majority of CDs (though I am behind on Janet's last album), mainly only missing the ones that were done before I was born and the 'brothers' (Jackie, Tito, Jermain, & Marlon) solo stuff.  I do however have a far bit of my iPod's memory devoted to the solo projects and old J5 stuff.  I was devestated when Micheal died.  It put an end to my most wanted fantasy.  I had hoped sometime that I would actually be able to see him in concert.  I was very very close to buying tickets to the "This Is It" shows in England but chickened out as I couldn't find someone else to go and didn't want to go that far alone.  So, when I heard that the brothers were going on tour I was so happy, then I heard that they were going to be in the state that boarders my province and I scrambled to see if I could make it work (which wasn' t working - my mom's comment was "Why do you want to go see 4 old guys dance" and my dad refused to drive in the city they were appearing).  Then on pure chance I stumbled on the fact that they had added a few new dates and venues and was actually coming to Canada! Not only that, they were going to be only 5 hours away from me!  Then a family friend said she wanted to go (ends up she couldn't get off work so my dad, knowing that I really wanted to go, ended up taking me) and that she would do the driving.  Everything was so perfect!! Except the fact that the concert was only two days after my dental surgery.  I had surgery on the 18th (Monday) and the concert was on the 20th (Wednesday).  I didn't care though, there was no way I was missing this.  In hindsight, I really should have cancelled my dental surgery but I just wanted to get it over and done with before summer started.  So, after a lot of rambling on and on, here is what happened that day :)

We woke up early, packed the truck stopped at Tim Hortons and were on our way.  We left here around 9am and drove pretty much straight all the way to Barrie (minus a few Timmy stops and bathroom breaks) and got into the city around 1:15ish.  Dad lived in Barrie when he was quite young so after we glimpsed the hotel we had booked (but didn't go in and register as we couldn't register until 3pm) and then dad drove around showing me all places he remembed from growing up.  First he showed me the dock area and then to the house they lived in before leaving the city.  Drove a bit more and we got to a rural type of area (lots of trees, I think maybe a concervation area was there now) and showed me the first house they lived in once they got to Canada (Dad was born in England, he was a war baby and moved her when he was a few months old) then showed me the long trek they had to walk to get to their first one-room school house.  While driving to try and find the old school house he showed me a small building and mentions "Mom used to teach Sunday School there".  Never in my life did I know that my grandparents / dad went to church years ago, let alone know that my Nan was a Sunday School teacher!  It appeared that the old one room school house had been torn down as there was a new-ish looking house were he thought the school should be.  We then drove to another surronding area of Barrie and dad was intent on finding this church.  He wouldn't ask for directions, wouldn't let me call mom to get the address and directions and just kept getting madder and madder about not being able to find the place and by that time it was past the time that we could go to the hotel so he gave up on it and said we would look for it the next day maybe or this summer as we are planning on taking a family vacation up around that area.

So we head back into the busy area of the city and pull into our hotel.  We get all the paperwork gathered that we needed and head into the building.  Somehow, when I booked our rooms they managed to put me at Hotel B instead of Hotel A whose website I had used to book the room!  The lady had to call Hotel B and see if we had reservations there.  Then she says that since it was a booking for that date, if we wanted to stay at Hotel A, we would have to pay for the room then and we would NOT get a refund from Hotel B.  Thankfully Hotel B was only a few city blocks from Hotel A (about a 5 - 10 minute drive, mainly because you have to get on and off a major highway).  Thankfully we didn't unpack anything yet so we hopped back in the truck and headed off to Hotel B.  Dad went in first and made sure everything was okay and then came out shaking his head that he had to pay a $60 safety deposit in cash before we could get the keys to the room.  Thought that was odd as I had ordered the room on credit card and was under the impression that if any damage was done to the room (like dad and I are such party people - dad has been sober 30+ years) that it would be charged to my card.  We unpacked the truck and lugged everything to our room (second floor with no elevator!) and tried to decide what to do as we had only a short amount of time.  Originally I had planned on having a nap during this time but I was so excited about the concert and we only had like a 30minute time frame where I could sleep, I decided to pass on the nap and just get showered and changed then played around on my iPod for a while.  We had passed a Mandarin restaurant while driving around and I had asked dad if he had ever been to one and that it was really good food.  When I came out of the shower I found that dad had gone through all the booklets and binder of information while I was in and had found a map with directions to get from our hotel to the closest Mandarin.  I was a little concerned as I hadn't really had anything to eat since before I had my surgery but my stomach felt good and once I got eating I realized just how hungry I was!  I even went up for seconds AND dessert!  We had a great supper (and ended up with an inside joke of "Welcome to Mandarin!") and then headed off to go to the concert.

After the major highway turned into a normal type of highway (I know that makes no sense unless you have seen it) dad told me this story from when he was a kid.  He pointed out this small lake and said that that is where him and my uncle always went fishing.  Then one day nan found out that they were crossing the highway to get to this lake and told them that they were never to cross that road again.  So instead they found drainage pipes and crawled through them UNDER the highway to get back and go fishing again.  I asked if he ever told nan that and he said he didn't want to get in trouble lol.  We drove for quite a while and than dad took a turnoff that he thought was the right one, however all it ended in was a LCBO and no signs about the casino.  Dad got back on the highway and traveled until her realized that we had gone too far.  We ended up getting off and going to a gas station to get directions. So we had to turn around and go back to where we had first been.  So we were finally on the right road and there was a lot of big signs advertising the place, until we went down the road and found that the bridge was completely gone and that we had to make a massive detour.  A short 5 minute trip turned into a good 20 minute detour. 

We finally got to the casino but then had no clue where we were going.  There were signs for the Entertainment Center that we followed but that ended up leading us to the hotel area.  We kept going around the building and time was running out and I could tell dad was getting frustrated and nervous.  We found a big entrance at the back so I ran in and asked where we were supposed to go and where to park.  He told me to go along the side of the building and there was the entrance door there, but not as far as the hotel.  Confusing as that is how we came in.  We went back that way and saw nothing again.  We could easily see the Entertainment Center, just no entrances or places to park.  There was a large set of multiple doors so dad finally just told me to leave one ticket and to get into the place so I didn't miss anything and he would find a parking spot and meet me in there.  Well that turned out to be the emergency exit for the Entertainment Center :S  I ended up back at the first door and walking through the entire casino to find the concert hall.  Somehow, that I still dont understad, dad caught up to me just before I had entered the Entertainment Center.  We got in the place, found our amazing seats and got comfy.  This is when dad let me know that we might have a slight issue because he thought that one of the tires in the truck was slowly leaking air but not to worry and to just enjoy the show.  We thought it was funny as looking around at the people at the show, I bet anyone would have bet good money that it was me that was accompaning dad and not dad accompanying me.  I was probably one of the youngest people there!  It was at a casino so it was 19+ but still there were a lot more older people than younger ones.  Of course the concert didn't start at 8pm on the dot like dad figured it would but I didn't care!  Finally it was time and I was suddenly smaked into reality that I was actually mere seconds away from seeing The Jacksons!!!!!

The concert and what happened to dad and I after it will be a seperate post as this one is getting way too long!!!

Yet Another Bad Doctors Appointment

I hadn't posted this yet as it was really bothering me and I just wanted to forget about it.  But enough timw has passed now that I can finally see it as just another horrible doctors appointment.  This appointment was made a few months ago by my GP because I had asked about what to do with my shoulder since my old Rhemy used to give me cortisone injections but my GP was set on me having no more cortisone shots because of my osteoporosis.  I even had new xrays (right shoulder and hip and both knees) ahead of the appointment so we wouldn't waste any time for me having to get them done and have a follow-up appointment.  Well it really didn't matter.  We show up at the appointment and find a small waiting room, probably 10 chairs that were all full and there were about 4 people standing with no room left anywhere!  That was the first hint that this might not go well.

After a very very long wait I was finally called to go back to a room, after another long wait the doctor (Dr. M) finally showed up.  He comes in and introduces himself and then asks what I was there for.  I told him for my shoulder and he asked me where it hurt.  I showed him the general area and then he asked about my medical history.  I tell him about the EDS and the osteoporosis and that I have many dislocations because of the EDS.  He asks me what joints dislocate and this occurs:

Me - Well my shoulder has dislocated a few times
Dr. M - Documented? 
Me - No, I can get it back by myself.  I also dislocate my wrists quite frequently
Dr. M - Documented?
Me - No, I was taught how to put it back in
Dr. M - Anything else?
Me - I have dislocated my knee before but had surgery that helped it until I dislocated it last year
Dr. M - Documented?
Me - No, I have never had to go to the ER to get it put back in
Dr. M - Well, I will tell you now that you have never dislocated your wrist.  Dislocating your wrist is a major trauma and you would have ended up in the ER becasue of it.  You probably have not dislocated your knee either because you wouldn't be able to put it back in by yourself.  Things like fingers can dislocate and go back in easy (as he points to his finger to make sure I know what a finger is?)
Me - I know my knee has dislocated, I have had 2 surgeons tell me that they could dislocate my knee cap with just their pinkie fingers
Dr. M - Well that is not a knee dislocation, that is just your kneecap moving out of place

At that point I figured that we would just forget about the dislocation aspect and try to go and get on to what was going on with my shoulder.  He asks me where the shoulder hurts and I tell him (basically as if I had a bowl over my shoulder, that is where it hurts).  He then says, well the MRI you had done shows that you have Rotator Cuff Tendonitis.  It took me a minute to figure out what MRI he was talking about and then I realize that I had an MRI of my shoulder done at least 2 years ago when my neck and back were bothering me and they wanted to see if the shoulder played a part in this or not.  I tried to explain this to Dr. M but he wouldn't listen.  I told him that that MRI was done BEFORE I had the shoulder problems but he still said the tendonitis is what is causing my problems.  I asked what about the dislocations, the new pain, the weakness to the point that it feels like my shoulder is going to just fall out of the joint, all of that he says is the tendonitis. 

Around this point we got into a discussion about cortisone injections and he basically bashed my rheumy big time for ever giving me one!  He went on and on about how they were not needed and the only time that they should be done is when one is in a lot of pain and the give them a cortisone shot to dull the pain so that the person can do physiotherapy.  It was then that I mentioned that physio does not work for me and makes things very worse.  I then mentioned that fact that I have had physiotherapist (PTists) that have refused to treat me because I become worse instead of better.  He kinda almost laughed at that and said that obviously they didn't know what they were doing and asked where this had happened.  I told him that I had about 4 PTists in three different cities all working on different joints that said this.  He then goes in that the only thing that can be done about my shoulder is physio.  I asked what the other options where and he tells me there is nothing and that I need to strengthen the other tendons and muscles in my shoulder to make them compensate for the bad tendon.  I tell him that it is a very fine line in EDSers that you dont want to make your joints too strong because that can cause as many problems.  He completely shut down that idea and told me that EDS does not affect the muscles (it was around this time that mom 'checked out' and knew that this appt wasnt going to end well).  I disagreed with him and told him about the different talks at the confrence about muscles and physiotherapy and how these work (or dont work) in EDSers.  Get this he then tells me................... "Maybe you should go to Baltimore and see a doctor there".  I literally laughed and said if I had the money I would be on the first flight there.

We then get into this circular discussion about physio.  I tell him that I had a full assesment at the hospital physiotherapy department and was found that all my joints and muscles were at the strengths that they should be and any more muscle building could be detremental.  He than kinda smiled to himself again and basically insinuated that the hospital physiotherapy (the only one covered by OHIP) was worthless and meant nothing.  He told me he wanted me to get into a private PT if I wanted to get good care (oh and of course he had the perfect PTists in mind - made me think he got a kick back for referals).  I then tell him that the private PTist I have seen for years is actually the head of the hospital physio department.  He said that I needed a good private PTists that could work on strength building exercises and resistance exercises (which are the no-no types for EDSers).  Finally, to humour him, I said okay if I try the physio how long do I have to try it.  He then says you can not put an end time to physio and it completely depended on progress.  I said that that was not acceptable to me (and told him about my old OS and the knee physio debacle) and that I would try it only if it was for me to re-evaluate in 3 or 6 months.  All I got was 'It doesnt work that way".  I then said okay, if I try the physio and it doesnt work, then what is the next step.  Then he switches his mind and says that there is no point me trying it because I have already concluded that it wasn't going to work.  I said that I would do it all as long as I knew that if (when) it messed up the shoulder even more, that there was an option to go from there.

He then starts to tell me about this famous baseball player who was before my time (had to laugh at that as this doctor is only about 5 years older than I am) and his joint issues etc and goes on and on.  At the end all I said was "Yes, but he didn't have EDS".  I then flat out asked him how many EDSers he has treated and he tells me that he has treated 5!!  I looked at mom and laughed (he has only been out of med school for about a year and has only been in practice for about 9 months).  I asked him again if I do physio I wanted an 'end limit', either a time frame or a physio goal that once I hit and if it didn't work that there would be something to fall back on.  Again he said there was no point in it.  This is when I started to cry.  I then asked that shouldnt we at least get a current MRI and see if the tendonitis is still even there or if it has 'gone away' or progressed and for the first time he finally agreed with me!!  Mom then asked if there was a chance to get a cortisone shot for the pain  and he said he refuses because I should have never had the ones I had to begin with! He said that I was already at a higher risk for osteoarthritis in the joint because of the 4 shots and I laughed and said I already had osteoarthritis in most joints.  He then tells me that I do not have it in my shoulder (sorry I am going to beleive my rheumy who told me I absolutly had it) and he would prefer to wait for me to get it when I was old instead of in my 30s.  I was so frustrated at this point that I could barely talk.

This is when he switched to being a psychiatrist!  Asking me if I was seeing anyone for consuling and that I had a chronic condition and I should be talking about it to someone and it obviously upset me and asked if I got this upset often, to which I replied "Only when talking with some doctors" and here comes the gem........... "Well, maybe you should stop going to doctors"!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Then he said he would order a new MRI and told us that we could decide what we wanted to do and he left.  I am not sure what he meant by deciding what to do as the only option that he offered (physio) he completely took back and told me it was worthless!  At that point I got mad and looked to mom and asked her if she noticed anything strange about the appointment.  She said no and I asked "Shouldn't someone doing an evaluation on shoulder issues actually, you know, touch the shoulder???".  After a minute we looked out and he was long gone so we left.  (Note - It has been a few weeks now and we have come to the conclusion that he never even ordered the MRI!!)

But here is one of the more frustrating parts.  On the way home my mom admits that this is the doctor that my brother saw last month to do surgery.  I was pissed!!!  I had asked her constantly for the name of the doctor that he saw and she kept saying she didn't know.  I told her that I wanted to know because I didn't want to waste my time on a doctor that would treat a person so quickly with surgery for a problem that was completely and entirely self inflicted (long long story!).  And if I had of known that this was the doctor, I would have never agreed to getting a referal to him!  Then I got even madder at her telling her that she just wasted a few months of my time that could have been spent waiting for a doctor that was actually good.  It still pisses me off.  There is more to this little story but this entry has gone way too long already.  Sorry for the heavy text but there was a lot of disrespect in this appointment that I wanted to post.